He married her to manufacture babies
I have been engaging with a few people lately to understand their perspectives on marriage. The responses vary from background to background.
I always insist that when one chooses a partner (Yes you should choose every partner you stay with). At least i do, so let me use "me" as an example. Every partner you have seen me with has been my choice at the time and that gives me a reason to be happy all the time because i was not forced by any circumstance or condition at the time
Here today i commented on a post on two African women who recently got married. The conversation swayed around why we marry. This my "attacker" believes the primary reason for marriage is meant to make babies. I say otherwise. I believe the primary reason for marriage is companionship. Making babies is secondary. This is how i see many of us entangled in relationships that fail-babies is all we see
We enter relationships/ marriages to make babies and the two baby-makers end up like strangers on their beds, house, and space. This is so because the reason was wrong from the very beginning.
Such a man as my "attacker" touches a nerve that i am able to keep in place. He rants on. "Please let me know your primary factor to marriage.....is it money, sex or wine ..."
It is insulting to think another person is all out for money, sex, wine... i am privileged to be surrounded by women way beyond such niceties that men think lure women. As a matter of fact, try such stunts with me, and perhaps you will swallow your pride back up your throat. As a matter of fact, like one lady said many years back, "men are like dessert"
Until we understand why we should get married, we shall remain slaves in that union.
I love children; but that is not the sole reason that will make me choose a man to spend the rest or part of my life with. I need friendship, a companion, someone who respects my feelings, one who doesn't poke where they shouldn't especially if they know about it.
Imagine your partner having prior knowledge that no more ranting on phone with friends and acquaintances beyond a particular time, no more scrolling through your social media pages and making contacts that annoy.
A partner who knows you value their time the most but will work hard to keep away from you for mostly crafted reasons. To me, these are signs to take off before shit hits home.
Have a reason to get married before you get trapped into something you might regret for the rest of your life
Through the eyes of AYENYO Joanita
I always insist that when one chooses a partner (Yes you should choose every partner you stay with). At least i do, so let me use "me" as an example. Every partner you have seen me with has been my choice at the time and that gives me a reason to be happy all the time because i was not forced by any circumstance or condition at the time
Here today i commented on a post on two African women who recently got married. The conversation swayed around why we marry. This my "attacker" believes the primary reason for marriage is meant to make babies. I say otherwise. I believe the primary reason for marriage is companionship. Making babies is secondary. This is how i see many of us entangled in relationships that fail-babies is all we see
We enter relationships/ marriages to make babies and the two baby-makers end up like strangers on their beds, house, and space. This is so because the reason was wrong from the very beginning.
Such a man as my "attacker" touches a nerve that i am able to keep in place. He rants on. "Please let me know your primary factor to marriage.....is it money, sex or wine ..."
It is insulting to think another person is all out for money, sex, wine... i am privileged to be surrounded by women way beyond such niceties that men think lure women. As a matter of fact, try such stunts with me, and perhaps you will swallow your pride back up your throat. As a matter of fact, like one lady said many years back, "men are like dessert"
Until we understand why we should get married, we shall remain slaves in that union.
I love children; but that is not the sole reason that will make me choose a man to spend the rest or part of my life with. I need friendship, a companion, someone who respects my feelings, one who doesn't poke where they shouldn't especially if they know about it.
Imagine your partner having prior knowledge that no more ranting on phone with friends and acquaintances beyond a particular time, no more scrolling through your social media pages and making contacts that annoy.
A partner who knows you value their time the most but will work hard to keep away from you for mostly crafted reasons. To me, these are signs to take off before shit hits home.
Have a reason to get married before you get trapped into something you might regret for the rest of your life
PC: Walter Photography
Through the eyes of AYENYO Joanita
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