Life Through My Eyes

They saw her arrive home with a blank look. She rarely came around during the December holidays. So everyone was eagerly waiting to hear why she came ahead of the new year. She wasn't speaking. All probes weren't doing the trick... So during the family tradition round a welcoming bond fire, grandmother who always has her way with everyone cracked it for all. "He chose fireworks over me", everyone went into fits. As ribs were cracking, a well of tears rolled down her cheeks as she heaved, her blouse got drenched in tears.  They all hushed immediately. Her hidden pain were all of a sudden written all over her face. How long had she held back, they wondered. She narrated her attempts to make him see through her lens, all was in vain, she let go, she just let go  "All I wanted was to build and honour 'our' family tradition". The cycle was broken and so will be forever. The beauty of crossing a new line together has been lost. To hold...

I have been engaging with a few people lately to understand their perspectives on marriage. The responses vary from background to background. I always insist that when one chooses a partner (Yes you should choose every partner you stay with). At least i do, so let me use "me" as an example. Every partner you have seen me with has been my choice at the time and that gives me a reason to be happy all the time because i was not forced by any circumstance or condition at the time Here today i commented on a post on two African women who recently got married. The conversation swayed around why we marry. This my "attacker" believes the primary reason for marriage is meant to make babies. I say otherwise. I believe the primary reason for marriage is companionship. Making babies is secondary. This is how i see many of us entangled in relationships that fail-babies is all we see We enter relationships/ marriages to make babies and the two baby-makers end up like stranger...

Very many years back, my cousin who had just joined college conceived. Word reached home and eventually she dropped out of college. The question remained, "who owns the pregnancy?" The elders explored a lot of options since cousin wouldn't say. Some cared less who owned the pregnancy. Then someone, a great uncle came up with his  "brilliant" solution! "Let's gather a lot of sticks and cane every young female relative of "cousin" Cheeeei! His thinking was we definitely knew baby daddy and would spill with a little help from the canes! Glad for the many civilised beings in the family, even if he was a great uncle whose words no one questions, he was told off! We survived such uncivilised act! Fast forward, cousin gave birth and has been loyal to baby daddy since, they have a number of offsprings together! She completed a course of interest and is employed Back to great uncle, recently I heard how he denied his daughter who birthed t...

I have your backs T2Ds (Type 2 Diabetics)! Have you heard people say things like "I don't feel pity for T2Ds? These are rich people who have failed to look after their health...These people called for the condition upon themselves. They could have avoided all this!..."                                                                                                      I was like you back then until i had my rude awakening in 2015. However, despite the July 2 episode when my girl got diagnosed with type 1 diabetes, the over 10 days in the hospital did not immediately show a need to extend my dream then to do something about type 2 diabetes. My focus was on type 1 diabetes, the unknown type of diabetes among many and later ge...