Man, never raise your voice at your mother-in-law…

Man, if you are from an African community and zeroing it down to my community; watch how you behave around your mother-in-law. One thing you might be naïve about is, she “controls” the relationship between you and your woman. It could be unknown to all parties. It is more of a natural thing.

If you love a woman and really want to keep her, rule number one! Watch you act towards your mother-in-law

How do you speak to her, respond to her, treat her…it doesn’t matter whether you share a roof or not. Keep your long tail in check

It doesn’t matter whether she is the annoying type, the irritating type, keep your tongue in check

It doesn’t matter if she is learned or not, keep your attitude in check

Don’t take a mother and daughter fight that seriously and think they will end it, you are fooling yourself

Mother-in-law will send you on errands, give you assignments, “annoy” you deliberately; she will test you in all sorts of cunning and sometimes annoying ways. And then the long chat will happen between her and daughter. She will not say, pack your stuff, very few do that…but she will not keep any detail hidden. Your woman will filter all this. Many times she will listen to the woman who laboured for her. Mother and daughter have a powerful and strong string of relationship. Sorry you cannot cut it off with any weapon, you can only weaken it in your own way, but that cord cannot be broken. Do you hear this?

It doesn’t matter whether she treats you like a son or not, just be careful around her and treat her daughter right at all times.

Do you let your mother-in-law run errands that you ideally should? Things she should not do because the son-in-law is around. Never be too busy with your own stuff around your mother-in-law. Do not try to show your manhood in her presence, wrong place to do it!

She speaks to her daughter often; don’t be deceived that they fight often. She listens. That woman is her mother and will always be. The relationship of a daughter and mother is very different from that of a mother and son. When the son gets himself a wife, the mother is quickly kicked into the drainage, many sons do this…and this is a reality in my community. A mother who has a grown son who found himself a wife will suffer like she has no son, many times these sons are capable of addressing her plight but the woman he has will always turn his face away from his mother. If you land yourself a wife that makes you see your mother like a mother, respect that woman and count yourself blessed

Back to son-in-law-mother-in-law relationship

When you stay under the same roof, you get so used to one another and your character eventually gets exposed. Be careful man. Reflect on how you generally treat a woman, but mostly how you treat her in front of her mother.

Your fowl attitude will cost you the woman you love or think you love. A mother will not sit back or keep quiet once she notices something is not right

Do not be indifferent to your mother-in-law

If you truly love the woman, treat her like she is human. Treat her right!

Through the eyes of AYENYO Joanita

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